I am so thrilled that Danette asked me to do a guest post for her! I have been debating on what to share with you all and after my manic Monday I learned some important things about blogging and some great life lessons in return and that's what I'm going to share with ya today.
Monday while looking at my stats I saw something weird, I had noticed it before but wasn't really sure and when I did some investigation and then got really freaked out. It basically looked like most of page view were coming from a referring sight that turned out to be a Russian Porn site! As you can imagine I had a total freak out mostly because I post a lot about my family, lots of pics of my kidos etc. Long long long story short (you can read full story here) I had that massive freak out only to find out it was just what is known as referrer spam! In the complete haste of my panic I went a little crazy! I deleted every post that had a pic of my kids on it. I spent hours taking down pics of my kids from everywhere and I was on the verge of shutting down the blog. I made twitter posts, facebook posts and a blog post saying I had been hijacked by pervs and I was shutting it down. I felt sick and distraught and thought my blogging life was over. (cue dramatic music, ha) In my crazy hasty overreaction not only did I delete a lot of important posts, a lot of hard work and spend countless hours worrying I ignited fear in a ton of people because believe it or not, a ton of bloggers have this crazy referrer spam in their stats site. Luckily I had a lot of amazing support and people that helped me find the solution. I was overwhelmed with the sweetness of my readers. I got links, posts saying don't quit and lots of help to calm my irrational fears!
The purpose for me telling you my crazy story is two fold. First, if you notice 'pregolum' or anything like that in your referring urls or sites ignore it! Do not click on it :) Its just stupid spam. Referrer spam (lots of links and info on referrer spam here) Clicking on it only makes more spam come in and makes it worse. The more you click the more you get. The more you ignore it the less you will see it.
Second, it taught me a valuable lesson about hastiness, mercy and grace!
It is not good to have zeal without knowledge,
nor to be hasty and miss the way. (Proverbs 19:2 NIV84)
Ignorant zeal is worthless; haste makes waste. (Proverbs 19:2 MSG)
Proverbs 14:29 Amp
He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is hasty of spirit exposes and exalts his folly.
He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is hasty of spirit exposes and exalts his folly.
Those verses pretty much sum up what happened to me! I was very 'zealous' if you want to put it that way! I was passionate about the reasoning behind my madness and hastiness. Untimely I was worried about the safety of my kids but there were a lot of different ways I could have handled it. A lot of easier ways that I could have taken care of things until I had time to do my research.
Proverbs 29:20 Amp
Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a [self-confident] fool than for him.
The same goes in many areas of most of our day to days. From small things to huge things, if any of you are like me, its all to easy to jump to the bad conclusion and run with it before knowing the whole story.
Its easy to fly off the handle at someone in traffic, its easy to judge the lady screaming at her kids in the store, its easy to get mad at someone for being late, its easy to think the worst instead of assuming the best in every day situations even when we don't know the whole story.
Did you ever hear the story about the man on the plane with 3 loud rambunctious kids and he is just sitting there not even paying attention to them. The other passengers are getting angry because the kids are being awful. Another passenger finally says something to the man about needing to control his kids and he says I am sorry their mother just died and I am still in shock and I have no idea how to tell them.
Of course the passenger (as well as most people reading this) have a total paradigm shift.
Same goes with someone cutting you off in traffic, someone being unnecessarily rude to you etc. Its much easier to be hasty and get angry with out knowing the situation.
I learned a valuable lesson in being hasty and my readers taught me a valuable lesson in mercy and grace. It would have been so easy for them to just say ok and unfollow and be done with it or to say omg shes crazy and way to over reactive but so many of them reached out and offered support.
Every day we do things that go against God, be it little or large, we all sin and we all fall short of His glory but He is always right there offering us grace and mercy. How sweet is it that no matter how hasty we are in our day to days Gods love and mercy are always new.
Matthew 5:7 Amp
Blessed (happy, [a]to be envied, and [b]spiritually prosperous—[c]with life-joy and satisfaction in God’s favor and salvation, regardless of their outward conditions) are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy!
Thank you, Danette for the wonderful opportunity to share some ramblings from my heart!
Thank you, Misty! I appreciate Misty and her willingness to guest post. Don't forget that tomorrow is the launch of the Blue Jay Boutique! Hope to see you then.
Nice to meet you! Great guest post, I hope you guys have a great weekend!
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting Misty! I still love you and follow you :D haha I totally understood all that you were going through because I had noticed the same thing on my stats, difference is you were actually smart and figured out what it all meant, I just ignored it. lol But now I know! You learned for the both of us.
ReplyDeleteDalayna